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Is your bedroom a restorative retreat and haven against
life’s daily stress? Does it nurture intimacy? Or do you have portraits of
grandma on your dresser yet wonder why your sex life suffers? If you
maneuver around exercise equipment or stacks of magazines, then it’s time to
create personal sanctuary in this high priority room a room meant to serve
what I call the Basic Rules of Wellness; the four “R’s” of Rest, Relaxation,
Rejuvenation, and Romance. With one-third of our lives spent here, it should
nurture the essentials for rejuvenating wellness to body, mind and soul. The
key factor lies in the quality of energy absorbed while sleeping, which
either nourishes wellbeing or robs us of the vitality required to lead
productive, fulfilling lives. Feng Shui, combined with the Basic Rules of
Wellness, works deeply during these stationary hours when we are more
receptive to the healing cosmic forces. The following guidelines although
brief, can transform your bedroom into a sanctuary for wellbeing. The Basic
Rules of Wellness Rest Essential as food and exercise, a lack of leads to
irritability, dullness, stress, imbalanced hormones, and weight
fluctuations. Sound familiar? Turn in early at least 4 nights per week to
restore the body’s natural rhythm for physical, mental, and emotional
wellbeing. Practice mindful equanimity; leave your cares at the door.
Relaxation Soothe nerves, boost immunity and wash away tension. Regularly
schedule downtime to self reflect, day-dream, meditate, read, journal, or
take a nap. Sprinkle a few drops of pure essential oil between clean sheets
and relax scents like sandalwood, rose, jasmine, ylang ylang, and vetiver
are more sensual, while lavender, linden, lemon balm, or chamomile induce
relaxation. Rejuvenation Outer beauty is a reflection of internal harmony
and good health. Rest, relaxation, diet, and lifestyle are imperative to
rejuvenating vitality. A self-care regime of organic whole foods, movement,
massage, and deep breathing rebalances the body’s energy systems, while
nourishing inner peace and confidence. Replace unfriendly synthetics with
natural fibers, allowing the body to breathe, perspire, discharge toxins,
and receive vital chi at night. Romance Nurturing healthy passion comes
naturally with a more balanced state of being. Practicing the “Four R’s”
supports the life skills linked to wellbeing, making you feel more
attractive while refining inner wisdom and clarity, important in
relationships and partner choices. Devote the bedroom exclusively to the
“Four R’s” and give intimacy a place to unfold and linger without
distraction. For fun, make a love basket include natural oils, hand towel,
water bottle, candles, lighter, incense, and lotions. Creating Sanctuary…
Modern amenities are convenient, yet often run counter to our fundamental
needs. Follow these guidelines for a lighter, more sensuous space:
Electronics/ Home Office: These items wreak havoc on the immune, nervous,
and hormonal systems. Put the TV in a closed cabinet and move the office,
business preoccupation, and stress to another room. Water/Mirrors: Can
undermine stability, harmonious relationships, and good health. Nix the
water, and if you can see yourself from the bed, move or cover mirror at
night. Family Photos/ Religious Icons: In what may be the last bastion of
privacy where we can freely express love and intimacy, uninvited eyes bring
unconscious inhibitions. Bathrooms: Locate bed away from bathroom door
(closed), never place headboard on wall abutting a toilet. Clutter: Keep
chaos at bay; tackle nonessentials and create a system that works for you.
Poison Arrows Counter sharp corners or protruding angles with floor lamps,
plants, artwork, or room divider to minimize. Beams/Sloping Ceilings:
Counter oppressive chi with a canopy of natural fibers over the full
dimension of the bed. Designer Directions? Soothing ambiance and décor are
important, however true Feng Shui goes profoundly beyond decorating. One
authentic Chinese system, Ba Zhai or Eight Mansions Feng Shui uses your date
of birth to determine auspicious compass directions to tap healing celestial
forces. If you suffer from health, romance or money issues, use the
simplified chart to calculate your Kua Number, find your best directions,
and move your bed. Harness these forces to enhance health, wellbeing,
prosperity, harmonious relationships, and personal growth. Calculate Your
Number The Chinese solar calendar cut off date is February 4th. If you are
born before that, say on January 11, 1985, use 1984, and calculate as
follows: Add last two digits of birth year until you get single digit, i.e.:
1984: 8 + 4 = 12, then 1 + 2 = 3Unlike Nine Star Ki, (an offshoot of this
system), there are separate gender calculations (regardless of sexual
preference). Please note that when arriving at Kua 5: 5 transforms to Kua 2
for males and Kua 8 for females. MALE: take 10 and minus your single digit:
i.e., 10 - 3 = Kua 7 FEMALE: Add 5 to the single digit: i.e., 3 + 5 = Kua 8
EAST & WEST GROUP NUMBERS EAST GROUP NUMBERS: 1, 3, 4, 9. BEST DIRECTIONS:
North, South, East, Southeast. WEST GROUP NUMBERS: 2, 6, 7, 8. BEST
DIRECTIONS: Northeast, Southwest, Northwest, West. Bed Location Solid walls
without doors or windows are preferred, however this is not always possible
as best directions take priority. If you find it necessary to angle the bed,
use a folding screen to create support behind the headboard. Use a compass
to measure the incoming chi for instance, face a good direction while
sitting at your desk, but for sleeping the position of the bed is based upon
where your head points when you are lying down! Honor yourself and let the
Basic Rules of Wellness become your mantra in the bedroom while enhancing
all areas of life. To discover how to apply these directions to all aspects
of life, call Melissa Kushi at 413-644-9050, visit the web at
www.MelissaKushi.com, or email
mk@melissakushi.com. Copyright 2004
by Melissa Kushi, all rights reserved, shall not be used in any form without
written permission. Melissa Kushi po box 967, great barrington, ma 01230 usa
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