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Extreme Breakup Recovery Maximum Healing – Minimum Time
If you are going through the emotional rollercoaster of a breakup, feeling
pain, anger and depression, know this: You don’t need to suffer one more day
over your ex! It doesn’t matter how long you have suffered, it is time to
give up the pain and open up to a life free of pain, and use this breakup to
your benefit. You may feel that you can’t stop clinging on to the past, but
by clinging on to the past, you are stopping life. Life is change; people
come and go in your life, and that is okay. As you grow, new people will
come and some may leave. It is all for your own good. The tendency to cling
to the old and avoid change is a common human trait. Unfortunately, it is
also a self-defeating and self-destructive habit, and completely
unnecessary. I have seen too much suffering and pain from breakups. Friends,
family members, clients and acquaintances have gone through long periods of
pain before getting over their exes. It took them a long time before healing
their hearts and opening for love again. From the outside, it was obvious
that their exes were not the right people for them in the first place, or
that their relationship had become stagnant and even sour. Finally the
breakup occurred, followed by a long period of pain, suffering and
ultimately a slow healing. (A long, painful recovery can create long lasting
negative consequences in life, such as loss of a job, poor school
performance, depression, weight problems, and many more). Years later, after
the breakup, I found them happier than ever, with a loved one. That new
person seemed to be almost a perfect match. Looking back into their lives,
they realized that unless they went through that breakup, finding their true
love would not have happened. So, why couldn’t they accept that this breakup
was for their own good in the first place? Why couldn’t they get over it
faster, rather than taking months or years to do so? Why did they have to go
through years or months of suffering? Why did they waste so much precious
time of their lives? After a breakup, everybody has two choices. One, leave
the healing to time. Two, take charge of the recovery process. The first
method will take a long time, pain and suffering before healing. It is slow
and torturous. The second method, taking control, will allow anyone to
accelerate the healing process, learn fast and move on, leaving space to
find healthier and more fulfilling love than ever before. You may need some
guidance on the steps for a fast and productive emotional healing. We have
never been taught how to heal emotionally, so when we go through an
emotional situation we are on our own. We need a method, a successfully
proven method for emotional healing. The Extreme F.A.S.T. method is an
effective, simple and practical alternative to heal faster than you thought
possible. Three facts make this method a very exciting proposition: First,
it works; second, anyone can follow it and get results; third, it creates
permanent change in the negative pattern of relationships. I must warn you:
the Extreme F.A.S.T. method is not for people who want to suffer, cling on
to the past, or keep repeating the same patterns in their relationships.
This method is the ultimate healing tool: a quick, productive, effective and
confronting method to heal as fast as you can. The steps are: Face It,
Accept It, See The Lessons and Take Yourself To A New Level. The first step
is to Face It. The alternative to facing it, is denying it. Even though
denial is a “natural” stage in any healing process it is unnecessary and it
only creates prolonged suffering. You can accelerate your healing process by
facing it. Even though it will be painful, it will feel so good afterwards.
Some of the realities you need to face are: you have been hurt, you are
emotional, you feel lonely and empty, and the most important one, it is
over. This first step is intense and filled with emotional release. To make
it easier, express your feelings and emotions privately, avoid
self-destructive behaviors (such as drinking and casual sex) and be your own
best friend. The second step in the Extreme F.A.S.T. healing process is to
Accept It. Acceptance means to surrender to what is real, versus what we
wish were real. Acceptance also means that we can look into ourselves for
honest answers. We can see how we contributed to the situation and how we
were partly responsible for it. Among the things you need to accept are,
that you have idealized your ex, you are there were “warning signs” and
suffering helps you avoid your life. The third step is to see the lessons.
Life is always guiding us to what is best for us. Through joyful and painful
experiences, we learn lessons that help us grow. Sometimes the only way we
pay attention to our deep needs, is when we experience pain and suffering.
These are the lessons you need to see about: self-esteem, your definition of
love, and your choice of a partner. As you learn from these areas you are
growing and preparing to get the love you truly deserve. An important
question to ask yourself as you see your lessons: Is there anything that you
fear about long term relationships? The fourth and last step of the Extreme
F.A.S.T. method is to Take Yourself To A New Level. This means to get to a
new level in your life where you can start living your life in a more
fulfilling way. Many of the apparently negative experiences we have in our
lives guide us to explore new alternatives for ourselves. We may learn new
ways of taking care of ourselves, new ways of feeling good about ourselves
and new ways of relating to others. By taking small risks that feel
comfortable for us, we grow and develop a new sense of self. Your new level
of growth will include new levels of: Self-esteem and confidence, positive
relationships, passion and Fun, and Love in your life. By going through
these steps, the Extreme F.A.S.T method can really help you accelerate your
healing and get ready for a new love. But the first love you need to develop
is with yourself. As you realize that the outside world is a reflection of
your internal world, you may want to pay more attention to your feelings,
emotions and needs. The pain that some experiences bring into your life is
generally a call for you to pay more attention to yourself. So why not start
now. When you choose a method to use and follow in your breakup or divorce
recovery, you are already on the path to healing. You have a choice; use
your free will to choose what is best for YOU. It requires a lot of courage
and strength to want to heal fast. It would be easier to follow the mass
belief that after a breakup we will go through a lot of pain and suffering
for years, or at least months. However, you can make a different choice. You
can believe in your own capacity to heal fast, in your own ability to get on
with your life as soon as possible. You don’t need to waste precious time
suffering and dwelling on the past. You can get the love you truly deserve.
Your true partner is already on the way; the more you suffer and prolong
your healing, the more you will delay his or her arrival. Make your choice:
Time or Extreme Breakup Recovery? © 2004 Jeanette Castelli. Adapted from
“Extreme Breakup Recovery” by Jeanette Castelli, M.S. A do it yourself
Workshop-In-A-Book®. Features a step-by-step guidance through the Extreme
F.A.S.T. method: proven for quick, permanent and productive recovery from
any breakup or divorce. Includes exercises, worksheets and affirmations.
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