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are you haunted by a bad habit?
Do you have a habit that has been haunting you since years?
Do you suffer from an inner self conflict, because you were unable to quit
that habit?
Do you feel pain each time you repeat doing that habit again?
Have you tried every possible method to quit smoking or over-eating, yet
failed?
Do you think that you can’t?
how to break your bad habits:
Most of us have suffered from a certain habit through our lives, whether
this habit was lying or letting go of our rights, wasting time or over
eating,Smoking,internet addiction ,or even drug abuse.
We have all done our best to stop it, we have all felt the pain of emotions
that arises from doing what we don’t want to do, but yet, very few of us
have succeeded, do you know why?
Because we have never thought of what’s below:
If you think that you can break a habit using will power alone, then you are
wrong.
Here's the story of Sam, an iron-willed guy who decided to stop smoking. The
first day passed, the second day passed and still he resisted the urge to
smoke a cigarette. He started to feel happy and confident.
Time passed, until one day, he had a car accident. Fortunately he wasn't
hurt, but the damage to his car cost him $200. On that day, Sam returned
back to smoking...
will power is not constant:
But why?.... Wasn’t Sam iron-willed? Yes he was, but will power is not
constant, it changes with time, it changes with life circumstances and it
changes with the ups and downs in our lives.
When you are happy, your will power will be strong but when you are
disappointed it will become weak. When you're at the top of your
achievements your will power may be an iron one, but when you hit your
bottom, your will power will reach its minimum level.
So, returning to Sam, what could he have done? Not that hard to guess. He
should have taken his decision to quit smoking on a very bad day. He should
have chosen a day where his will power is at its bottom, instead of choosing
one of the best days in his life to start quitting. If he did succeed to
quit while being at his lowest level of will-power, then any other day would
be much easier for him because his will-power will be much stronger.
bad habits and external dependancy:
Sam tried to run away from his problems by smoking, he didn’t want to face
his real feelings - he just ran away. He ran away to a cigarette, because he
couldn’t stand it by himself; Sam had an external dependency. He was
dependent on smoking to lift his mood.
You too must know if you have any kind of external dependency that is
causing you to continue embracing a habit, and unless you eliminate that
dependency, you wont be able to stop nor break your habit.
Don’t run away, if you want to escape... then escape; but escape forwards
instead of backwards.
bad habits and false beliefs:
Unfortunately, the end of the story was much worse.
Sam started to think that he was weak, and that he couldn’t quit, and
started to look back at his history to find that he has failed to quit
smoking more than ten times; so he just gave up trying again. He gave up
because he has built a fake belief, a belief that is composed of two words:
“I can’t”. Who knows, maybe if he tried again only once, this would be the
one.
bad habits and will power misuse
Another factor is will-power misuse. Will-power should be channelled to the
correct destination instead of being wasted somewhere else. Will power
misuse is like trying to break through a wall, instead of opening the door
using the knob. An example of will-power misuse is getting very enthusiastic
one day then running to do a certain task until you get bored and lose your
enthusiasm. To channel your will power correctly, write down a plan when you
are enthusiastic, instead of quitting a habit for three days then returning
back again to where you started from.
Bad habits and learned helplessness:
When you were born you didn’t knew yet how to become helpless yet but as you
progressed through life and as you experienced a failure towards a failure
you learned that new skill, the skill of becoming helpless!!
Learned helplessness concept was proven by laboratory experiment made on
dogs, it was proven that someone could learn how to become helpless towards
doing a task or towards breaking a habit by just failing to do the task many
times. The good news is that just as you learned how to become helpless by
practicing helplessness you could unlearn this acquired skill by not
practicing it, if you felt for a moment that there is no hope in quitting
this habit just say “NOO, I wont fall a prey to learned helplessness, I
wasn’t born helpless”.
Breaking Habits and Inner Self Conflict:
Sometimes you can’t break a habit because a part of you wants it. Yes you
may want to stop smoking because of the health risks associated with smoking
but on the other hand another part of you wants you to smoke in order to
enjoy the cigarette. In this case ignoring the need of one of your parts
will result in suppressed emotions and unmet needs which will in turn lead
to feeling uncomfortable and so you will eventually return back to the bad
habit.
In this case you need a method to resolve this inner conflict, and lucky you
there is an NLP technique especially designed for resolving inner conflicts
which is called Parts integration technique. Visit this link for full
information on parts integration technique.
bad habits and trying somthing new
Finally, if you haven’t tried anything addictive yet, then don't. Never try
it. Lots of people imagine that trying everything provides them with
necessary experience, but they're just doing so to in order to compensate
for their lack of knowledge or self confidence, and that’s wrong.
Trying something makes the fear of trying fly away. Usually we all have some
fear regarding trying something new, this fear is some a protection
mechanism that God gave us, so don’t break the wall of fear of trying, and
leave your non-constant will power in charge. Never break your first line of
defense... Fear of trying. Trying cigarettes will make trying weed much
easier, trying weed will make trying drugs much easier, and so on. Each step
you go down, makes something worse more accessible and closer to you.
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