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Article: Wonder Why Things Aren't Happening For You - Here is Why! - by Sophie Merle, EFT-Adv |
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Wonder Why Things Aren't Happening For You - Here is Why!
For many of us, nothing comes easier than neglecting or completely ignoring our well-being. An act justified by all sorts of excuses. Be it time, money or know-how, we just don’t have the means to take excellent care of ourselves. Or so we believe. Wrongly. If we really wanted to (deep down inside!), we would have everything we need to pamper ourselves to the maximum. All the time needed, all the love, all the help and support, all the money. The whole kit would be available to us at all times. However, when we’re not equipped with that kit, the truth of the matter is that we don’t want it. We feel better not attending to our well-being. Even often giving away what we ought to keep for ourselves. God forbid that anyone would call us selfish, for “Selfless” is our name! Yep, “Selfless”. And proud of it! Being selfless is seen as utterly holly in our society. It is a quality that is put high-up on a pedestal. But where’s the triumph when you think about what the word truly means: “Walking around without a self”? When you’re selfless, you don’t count. You’re not important. You’re not there. In short: You don’t even exist. Talk about an achievement! Most of us have been instructed right out of the womb to achieve sainthood. Often times through force and abuse when deviating slightly from this high order. Inflict enough pain to a baby, a toddler or a teenager and eventually the child will become numb to its own needs. A state of selflessness that soon gives way to praise and rewards, finally birthing feelings of security. The aim of being selfless is obviously to be loved and appreciated by others. Getting the rewards that ought to come for attending to the well-being of those around. Unfortunately, the mechanics is bound to corrupt with time. What was once working doesn’t work anymore. The reason? The door to fulfilling our personal needs closes. It’s shut. Sealed. Nothing enriching can come anymore. No more joy, no more opportunities, no more nothing! Just lack and pain left. Wonder why things aren’t happening for you? Check how often you’re denying your own needs. All that you do for others that’s taking your good away. In other words, how much you dislike taking care of yourself. You’ll find right there all the answers to what’s lacking in your life. We owe to take very good care of ourselves. It’s our first duty, spiritual or otherwise. Only then, when our cup is full, can we start on our altruistic journey. Then truly able to give with no strings attached or even any thanks expected. Magnanimous as we want. Not the other way around. |
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Certified Energy Psychology practitioner and writer with years of experience. Published author with more than eleven books in print (work featured in the French Book of the Month Club). Feng Shui expert and writer (Compas School) Founder of the Fondation Française EFT-Emotional Freedom Techniques: www.SophieMerle.com offering a FREE monthly Newsletter and FREE teachings GALORE both in French and English. Also publisher of "Be Your Own Therapist" News (for if you think of a therapist as being someone specifically trained to help you feel really good and realize your dreams and aspirations, it sure makes sense to learn how to become your very own - and save a bundle in the process!). For a FREE subscription please log on to: www.ZensightProcess-All-about-Love-Healing.com (featuring an e-book containing twenty-two self-healing sessions with Zensight, an awesome Energy Psychology process incredibly easy to use on your own. Personal contact: TopRankHealing@aol.com (I am very easy to reach and be happy to answer your questions) |
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